The Magic Question in Perimenopause… and Beyond!

Love in Perimenopause

It’s Heart Month and most of my writing focus has been on heart health for midlife women. But it’s also Valentine’s Day this weekend and that got me thinking about love and hearts in a different way.

Would you believe me if I told you there was one question that could guide your decisions? And that using this question routinely might totally change your mindset, self-talk, and health…all in one swoop?

There is….and it’s this. “What feels most like love?”

I first learned of this way of thinking when I did my Master Coach training in Susan Hyatt’s BARE program. BARE is a process that teaches you to take better care of yourself. You learn how to prioritize your health and create more time for pleasure, rest, and self-care. The result is creating a new relationship with your body.

What Does Self-Love Look Like In Perimenopause?

“What feels most like love?” can be applied to any aspect of your life.

Here are just a few:

  • Scarfing the Ben and Jerry’s at midnight or figuring out what you’re REALLY hungry for?
  • Movement…does love today feel like a 5-mile run or gentle yoga?
  • Becoming intentional about what you’re allowing into your brain…the evening news or an inspirational book?
  • The type of friends you hang with….Negative Nellies or like-minded ladies who are living their best lives?
  • Three glasses of wine or a good night’s sleep?
  • Stuffing food in standing at the kitchen counter or sitting down with candles and music.
  • Moaning and complaining through perimenopause or deciding to take action and get help?

I think you get the picture.

Finding Happiness in Perimenopause & Beyond

So many women (especially those in perimenopause and menopause) never stop to consider what THEY want and what makes them happy. Every iota of joy and pleasure has been sapped from their lives and daily living more or less becomes an exercise in survival. And this doesn’t make for a happy heart or feel at all like love. Joy is an essential part of vibrant health and we all deserve to have it.

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When you choose love, again and again, as often as you can, you’ll create a new way of treating yourself. And when you fill your well with this kind of goodness, you have even more to give to others. Not to mention that you become incredibly HAPPY. 

This Valentine’s Day, give your brain a break. Lead with your heart and tune into what your body is telling you.

Choose love!

Dr. Anna Garrett is a menopause expert and Doctor of Pharmacy. She helps women who are struggling with symptoms of perimenopause and menopause find natural hormone balancing solutions so they can rock their mojo through midlife and beyond. Dr. Anna is the author of Perimenopause: The Savvy Sister’s Guide to Hormone Harmony. Order your copy at

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