01 Jan 2020
What You Need Most for a Successful 2020
Choosing a word. Making resolutions. Creating new habits. All are ways to mark the beginning of a new year. But truthfully, none of these things will set you up for success in the new year unless your SELF-CARE is spot on. Women tend to put themselves last on their to-do lists (if at all). This kind of negligence is a recipe for burnout and a lot of resentment towards others. Don’t do this to yourself!
Changing the way you care for yourself can be challenging.
Like anything else, we tend to get into habits that don’t serve us and so creating something new requires attention and intention. If you know something in your life needs to change, here are 5 ways you can begin to uplevel your self-care:
1.) Become a “Ninja of Nope.” No is a complete sentence and one that most of us would be well-served by saying more often. By the time we get to midlife, most of us are experts at fielding requests for help and juggling multiple projects. But somewhere in the menopause transition, we lose the desire to people-please. Dropping estrogen levels bring the bonus of no longer feeling like the world is ours to save.
Saying “no” is uncomfortable for may women. We’re afraid people won’t like us or that we’ll let someone down. But the cold, hard truth is that when you say “yes” to something you don’t really want to do, you say “no” to yourself. If you have no white space in your life, there’s no opportunity to fill your own well first, which makes you of little use to anyone else… and it makes you resentful! The people who suffer are the ones who are closest to you.
Live by Cheryl Richardson’s mantra, “If it’s not an absolute yes, it’s a no” (this is my personal favorite). This means you have to know what your priorities are. Choose 3 or 4 things that matter most (family, job, self-care, elderly parents, etc.). Any requests that don’t align with your current priorities are a NO. Using this practice saves tons of mental and physical energy.
2.) Create white space in your calendar. This is my biggest personal challenge. The Puritan work ethic in me believes that I must be “doing” all the time to be considered a productive member of society. Unfortunately, this approach resulted in ALL of the joy and fun being sucked out of my business in 2018.
When 2019 began, I vowed that I would create a different experience or close up shop. I hired a mindset coach for 6 months and together, we set out a path that included much more space for ME in my calendar. I took a few steps backward and focused on fun for a while. The result? More fun. More joy. AND my best business year ever! I am BACK in the game!
3.) Invest in yourself. Spending money on healthy food or going to therapy are just 2 of the ways you might up your self-care game. There should be no bigger priority than your health and well-being. Because if that isn’t good, then nothing else will be good. Sure, organic food is more expensive. Gym memberships cost money. And therapy may not have good insurance coverage. But do what you need to do. Our local farmer’s market takes food stamps. You don’t need a gym to exercise. Look at your spending habits and rearrange your priorities if necessary.
4.) Take care of unaddressed health issues. This includes getting your hormones and gut health in tip-top shape. Perimenopause can last up to 10 years for some women. Your hormones and your gut are intricately linked so if there’s a problem with one, there’s likely a problem with the other. Add in food sensitivities and you have a recipe for leaky gut, fatigue, anxiety, many kinds of GI distress, and lack of vitality. All of these things can be tested and a skilled provider can help you create a path forward.
5.) Keep your cup full! When you are trying to give from a place of depletion, you become burnt-out and resentful. Only by keeping your cup full can you be of real service to what is important in your life. Only you know what truly fills your cup. Perhaps it’s time alone. Solitude in nature. A scorching hot yoga class. Time spent in a balancing hobby. An adventure with friends. Loud music and raucous dancing. Gratitude journaling. Weekly Thai massage. Hiring someone to do the parts of your work that deflate you. Taking a weekday off with your best buddy roaming the city. A long snuggle with a beloved pet (maybe even take them to work with you). Getting to bed at 9pm. Doing yoga in the middle of the day. A hot bath. These are all seemingly simple things, but they are powerful.
As we begin a new decade, I encourage you to take stock of the way you are living your life and the way you feel. What needs to change? What help do you need? How can you make your wildest dreams and amazing vitality a reality? Be creative and courageous! Share your thoughts in the blog comments. I’d love to hear them.If you know something in your life needs to change, check out these 5 ways you can begin to uplevel your #selfcare in the new decade! #hormones #hormoneimbalance #perimenopause #WordOfTheYear #guthealth Click To Tweet
Dr. Anna Garrett is a menopause expert and Doctor of Pharmacy. She helps women who are struggling with symptoms of perimenopause and menopause find natural hormone balancing solutions so they can rock their mojo through midlife and beyond. Dr. Anna is the author of Perimenopause: The Savvy Sister’s Guide to Hormone Harmony. Order your copy at www.perimenopausebook.com.
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